One should share even good things (e.g. achievements) of children carefully. I’ve seen parents continuously sharing even minuscule achievements of their children and trying to prove how smart they are as parents, or the children are prodigies.
If they become underachievers (in comparison to how their parents portrayed them), they will find it very difficult to cope with. One shouldn’t burden children with one’s ambitions.
My wife and I recently welcomed our first child and this has been top of mind for me. My wife likes posting and sharing details of her life, which I’m fine with, but we’ve already talked about making sure that our daughters life stays as private and separate from that as possible. It pains me to hear about children having to grow up and fill the role that’s already been created for them online without their choice.
I can’t see the whole article, only parts of it thanks to the paywall, but that’s not really much of a surprise.
All of that is on the internet now, and if they ever went viral, there’s almost no chance that they could be taken down. Every single thing about them that was filmed and posted online could very well stay there.
That’s not even counting pages and channels where the children basically get used as content farms, and their lives are nearly constantly on camera. You can’t claw that back, even if the parents had wanted to.
I can’t imagine how it would feel knowing that your embarrassing moments and otherwise private matters were shared with millions of people online. Mortifying wouldn’t even begin to begin to cover it.
Especially if it’s popular enough that it becomes what their name brings up when someone tries searching for them, for things like job interviews. Is that going to start affecting their opportunities and prospects?
We created a private online album and invited family. They’re notified when we upload new pictures, and the album is unable to be viewed without an invite. It’s been so easy to use.
We need not only to have the kids of today to learn digital literacy and privacy rights, but also their parents. I’m really low-profile about my personal life, and I like that my family is also like that.
Here’s some stuff, roughly, that he’s posted on Facebook about his son:
“Oh my god my fucking kid is going to be the death of me”
“If you think raising a kid is hard try having a kid with learning disabilities”
“I wish I had a normal son”
I have told him over and over that his kid is gonna find that shit, and it will ruin any chance of him having a good relationship with him in the future.
I’ve even posted in some egregious exams outright telling him to delete that shit for his kids sake.
He doesn’t care. He’s a selfish prick who will talk over you about whatever dumb shit comes to mind because he only cares about himself. He will also guilt you into feeling bad shit like not saying happy birthday to him – he’s over 50.
He’s a selfish prick who will talk over you about whatever dumb shit comes to mind because he only cares about himself. He will also guilt you into feeling bad shit like not saying happy birthday to him
I grew up before social media. My neighbors were fuckups. Their mother’s approach to discipline was to tell the whole town every time they fucked up because peer pressure would apparently work where she was failing? I asked her once if she thought it might affect her relationship with them down the line and she said she didn’t care as long as they turned out all right. Now she never gets to see half her grandkids. Funny how things turn out.
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i remember a reportage here. “not even born already on social media”
One should share even good things (e.g. achievements) of children carefully. I’ve seen parents continuously sharing even minuscule achievements of their children and trying to prove how smart they are as parents, or the children are prodigies.
If they become underachievers (in comparison to how their parents portrayed them), they will find it very difficult to cope with. One shouldn’t burden children with one’s ambitions.
My wife and I recently welcomed our first child and this has been top of mind for me. My wife likes posting and sharing details of her life, which I’m fine with, but we’ve already talked about making sure that our daughters life stays as private and separate from that as possible. It pains me to hear about children having to grow up and fill the role that’s already been created for them online without their choice.
I would never post that shit in the first place. What asshole parents…
I can’t see the whole article, only parts of it thanks to the paywall, but that’s not really much of a surprise.
All of that is on the internet now, and if they ever went viral, there’s almost no chance that they could be taken down. Every single thing about them that was filmed and posted online could very well stay there.
That’s not even counting pages and channels where the children basically get used as content farms, and their lives are nearly constantly on camera. You can’t claw that back, even if the parents had wanted to.
I can’t imagine how it would feel knowing that your embarrassing moments and otherwise private matters were shared with millions of people online. Mortifying wouldn’t even begin to begin to cover it.
Especially if it’s popular enough that it becomes what their name brings up when someone tries searching for them, for things like job interviews. Is that going to start affecting their opportunities and prospects?
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I post pretty damned close to zero things in a public fashion of myself or my kids.
I’m glad I grew up slightly before this time.
We created a private online album and invited family. They’re notified when we upload new pictures, and the album is unable to be viewed without an invite. It’s been so easy to use.
We need not only to have the kids of today to learn digital literacy and privacy rights, but also their parents. I’m really low-profile about my personal life, and I like that my family is also like that.
My bud has a kid who is like 13.
Here’s some stuff, roughly, that he’s posted on Facebook about his son:
“Oh my god my fucking kid is going to be the death of me”
“If you think raising a kid is hard try having a kid with learning disabilities”
“I wish I had a normal son”
I have told him over and over that his kid is gonna find that shit, and it will ruin any chance of him having a good relationship with him in the future.
I’ve even posted in some egregious exams outright telling him to delete that shit for his kids sake.
He doesn’t care. He’s a selfish prick who will talk over you about whatever dumb shit comes to mind because he only cares about himself. He will also guilt you into feeling bad shit like not saying happy birthday to him – he’s over 50.
Anyways I’m gonna go have some more whiskey.
???
With a father like that, those posts will be the least of this kid’s problems.
This is the kinda shit that makes me wonder why the fuck we don’t create something like a “Parenting License”
I know it is borderline eugenics and could probably be abused to high fucking hell, but still
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I grew up before social media. My neighbors were fuckups. Their mother’s approach to discipline was to tell the whole town every time they fucked up because peer pressure would apparently work where she was failing? I asked her once if she thought it might affect her relationship with them down the line and she said she didn’t care as long as they turned out all right. Now she never gets to see half her grandkids. Funny how things turn out.
Did they turn out alright though?
Nope!